These were some really great tips that I wanted to save and figured the best way to do that was in a blog post.
- Get their self-esteem from marriage, job and athletics (job and athletics are always uncertain so the marriage is what they want to count on)
- Think respect is more important than feeling loved (it almost feels like the same thing to them)
- Want to feel affirmed and appreciated by their wives
- Are not good at taking hints. Tell him what you want.
- Want to know that they are the #1 person in your life, especially if you have kids. Your kids will grow up and move out and you will still be with him.
- Want grace and forgiveness. Those are important to him. He's going to mess up, but he doesn't need to be reminded of it.
- Don't appreciate or like nagging.
- Don't like to be ambushed. Make sure to talk to him before going into a discussion with others about a certain subject so that he's not taken off guard.
- Want you to protect their reputation. What do you say about him to others? Do not disrespect him or put him down to others. This is how he will be perceived. Guard him.
- Want to be spoken to with kindness and gentleness. "Husband is the leader, but the atmosphere of the house is set by the wife."
- Need to feel desired, not tolerated or pitied.
- Need to be admired. Admire the work they've done in the yard, or around the house.
- Need "men"time. It may not look the same as "ladies" time. They may just want to watch a football game with friends. Encourage this.
- Need to be our Knight in Shining Armor. We need to let them know ho we appreciate them. Know your husband's love language.
- Don't ever want to admit any of this, but when we do this, we set ourselves up for an amazing marriage! =)